Explanations for external “whys” creates loops, not clarity
Replace the question “why” with “what now.
The attempt to explain, justify, or identify an external why — and to hope for resolution through it — does not lead to clarity. It leads to internal distortion.
Why is that?
Humans are conditioned. By parents, by social structures, by schooling, educational systems, universities, career paths, positions, and everything that develops from them over time.
Every external why — regardless of the domain — emerges from these individual conditionings
and the subsequent experiences attached to them.
Since the conditioning, imprinting, and experience of your counterpart are not accessible to you,
you will never receive your external why in full.
And even if you did — 100% truthfully — it would not resolve your conflict. How could it?
It is their why.
When you say: “If I only knew why, then I could…” you are implicitly stating that you already could.
Why then do you need validation from the external why?
If you can act — act.
No answer you receive will satisfy you.
It will only generate more questions — by tomorrow at the latest.
People say life is an “obstacle run”, yet they place their own obstacles on the path.
No one claims that the weight you carry is not heavy. But you may ask:
How heavy do you want to carry?
How heavy can you carry?
How long have you already carried?
And where are you carrying it to?
You could put down your burdens — without evaluating them.
I want to illustrate something through dog behavior.
Not to equate humans and dogs, but to describe mammalian behavior accurately:
If a dog lives in extremely poor environments, and is then offered a life that is only 5% better,
it will choose that option. The dog does not need a vision of a “better life” — it decides through experience, not imagery.
Humans always have a conceptual outcome-image of what a better life must look like.
And this paradox makes the path more difficult.
How close are you to the life you want to live?