You don’t fix behaviour. You heal disconnection.
There is no obedience without trust.
Some dogs don’t pull on the leash.
They pull on a life that never gave them clarity.
And some people don’t yell at dogs.
They yell at patterns they never understood — in others, or in themselves.
We talk about training.
About behaviour. About control.
But few talk about the feeling of not being seen.
Not as a dog.
Not as a human.
People say:
“My dog doesn’t listen.”
“My partner doesn’t understand me.”
“My environment is wrong.”
But what they really mean is:
“I don’t know how to connect anymore.”
Most of the problems we try to train
aren’t problems.
They’re responses to isolation.
They’re patterns born from a lack of resonance.
Not from disobedience.
Not from defiance.
Not from weakness.
But from disconnection.
Dog or human — when someone shuts down,
it’s not because they’re stubborn.
It’s because no one really listens.
And if you want to listen —
you have to be willing to be heard yourself.